Forget the flowers, teddy bears and cheap boxes of chocolates. Who said Valentine's Day needs to be about receiving love from someone else? The best place to start is with yourself.
Whether you're single or in a relationship is entirely irrelevant here. Ignore all the claims of loved-up couples on social media platforms and spend time celebrating you and all the best attributes you offer the world.
“One of the biggest things you need to remember is that the most important relationship you have is with yourself, so you must look after yourself first and foremost.”
Need a massage, pedi, mani or facial? Go and get one! Feel like turning the music up and dancing around your house because you can? Just do it. It's good for your body and mental health and, most importantly, can soothe your soul. If you really want that bunch of flowers, a giant teddy or the most expensive box of chocolates, get them yourself! Who cares what anyone else thinks!
When everyone else is getting gooey and lovey-dovey as they head out on the 'most romantic night of the year,' treat yourself to a big yummy meal at home. You can either cook it yourself or have it delivered straight to your door. Carbs don't count if no one sees you eat them (I'm just kidding, of course!). And don't forget dessert! Even though I'm talking about all the yummy foods that make us feel good, if you like the healthy side of life, treat yourself to your favourite foods there!
Have a laugh. You'll feel better. Not sure how to make yourself laugh because life isn't exactly being super friendly to you right now? Find a funny show or movie, look up terrible dad jokes or watch a comedy special to get those good full belly laughs to help you love the world again.
If exercise is your go-to when focussing on yourself, don't forget to go for a run, do some yoga, pilates or head to your local boot camp. Or slow down the pace and take a leisurely stroll around your neighbourhood and stop to enjoy the simple things.
Being a writer myself, sometimes the best thing I can do is jot things down. It doesn't always help, but putting your thoughts on paper can alleviate your mind and help you in the long run.
Take up a new hobby or learn a new skill. Let's face it, life gets busy, and we forget to take time out for fun or to learn new things. Give yourself time to go and do something different or learn to dance, sew or even use the opportunity to find out to become 'handy' around the house!
Catch up with an old friend you haven't seen in forever. Sometimes being around the people who were once a big part of our lives can help us feel more at ease, especially if you spend time sharing stories and having a great laugh.
One of the biggest things you need to remember is that the most important relationship you have is with yourself, so you must look after yourself first and foremost. Another way to do this is sleeeeeep! Yes, I know, easier said than done. I, too, am guilty of not getting enough sleep; the bags and dark circles under my eyes are a testament to that!
Do yourself a favour when you feel like you need a pick-me-up, stay away from social media. In fact, if you can, turn your phone off altogether and enjoy some peace and quiet.
Above all else, be true to yourself and remember there is only one you. Valentine's Day doesn't have to be the only day to practice self-love. You can do it any day or every day!